I often see small groups of parents circled up at volleyball tournaments discussing everything they would have done differently. If I am honest, I have been caught in these conversations. As a former coach, I have been the centerpiece of those conversations. The game or tournament is over and parents circle up to critique all that could have been better. We analyze and start forming stories of why our kid isn’t getting the opportunity they deserve or why the team isn’t performing as they should. This type of negativity is dangerous for our family, our child, and the team.